In her ground-breaking 1983 book titled, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Dr. Janet Woititz outlines the personality traits of children who grow up in a home that includes an alcoholic father. The consequences children in these situations face still apply even today.
Children of an Alcoholic Father Have Abandonment Issues
Children afraid of abandonment will desperately cling to a relationship, even if it’s unhealthy or unsafe. As a result of seeing their fathers get violent while drunk, children will often be hyper-vigilant and always are on the lookout for possible problems. They usually don’t sleep well and can suffer constant nightmares when they do sleep.
To cope with intense anxiety and grief, these children will often seek out the only comfort they know to be effective: alcohol. They may also actively seek romantic partners who need “rescuing,” leaving them little time to take care of themselves. Even as adults, children of alcoholic fathers like to maintain strict control over their own behavior as well as others. They fear that losing control could jeopardize their own well-being, just like it did when they were children.
No matter how “good” they are, children of alcoholics can never seem to please their parents when they’re drinking. They often develop a low sense of self worth and are overly-critical of their own achievements, despite how competent they may be.
If any of these things sound familiar, help is available.
Serenity Lodge offers men nationwide the chance to gain sobriety, change their negative thought processes and give their children a better future with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). During ACT, therapists challenge men to accept what has happened and commit to changing their future. Group therapy, 12-step meetings and addiction education can also help them avoid relapse.
Amenities For Children Of An Alcoholic Father At Serenity Lodge
After undergoing detox and therapy, Serenity Lodge offers children of an alcoholic father structure and amenities. Permanent sobriety for children of an alcoholic father requires new coping mechanisms and structure, both of which can be found at Serenity Lodge. Entering alcohol rehab is the best time for children of an alcoholic father to build healthy habits and coping mechanisms. A child of an alcoholic father should start with eating 3 nutritious meals a day. Monitoring in inpatient rehab helps you account fully for what you eat.
In our safe, relaxing environment, clients also take full advantage of amenities including but not limited to:
- Sauna and massage therapy
- Racquetball courts
- Fully equipped fitness facility
- Meditation Pyramid
- Movie theater and recording studio
Serenity Lodge amenities are more than just perks. Hobbies and fitness can boost self-esteem and provide clients with lifelong skills and habits that improve mood and lead to better overall health. From sports to creative art, Serenity Lodge offers you the chance to have fun without addiction. Come find your new passion with us today!
Don’t let the past consequences of growing up with an alcoholic father affect your future. Call Serenity Lodge today at 866.379.4365 to learn more about your treatment options.